It can be a hard pill to swallow to believe you are the reason you aren’t as happy as you could be, but sometimes in subtle ways, your habits and routines are getting in the way. Toxic habits don’t always seem toxic, in fact many of them probably seem harmless. But over time, they can get in the way of your own happiness. Here are some habits to start analyzing in your life.
Feelings of Jealousy and Envy
Jealous and envy are normal emotions, but they shouldn’t be your primary emotions or take over your life. When you feel jealousy cross your mind, take a moment to step back and analyze where those emotions are actually coming from. Find your triggers, which can be anything you see or hear that makes you feel jealousy or envy.
In most cases, it is not about what the other person has or is experiencing, but your own lack in your life. Figure out why you have a feeling of lack, and what is actually going on. Maybe you need to work on your own self-confidence, have a shift of your mindset, or just get out there and have new experiences.
Playing the Blame Game
Blaming everyone else and even yourself for all your problems isn’t a healthy habit to have. Sometimes, situations are other people’s fault, but dwelling on that and soaking into the blame isn’t going to help anything. Use these situations as reasons to educate yourself and learn from mistakes that were made, even if they were not your own. Then move on, and don’t keep pointing the blame.
Not Practicing Self-Care
Self-care is incredibly important, as this is time when you make yourself a priority. You are just important as your work and other people in your life. If you are caught in the hustle mentality where you do nothing but work and focus on your goals, you probably are in desperate need of some self-care. Self-care can be anything you do for yourself, from a hot bath to a nice walk in your neighborhood. It can be reading a book before bed or sleeping in late on the weekends.
Try to Control Everything
It is time to let go some of your controlling instincts, even if you don’t think they’re creating chaos in your life. Feeling like you need to control absolutely everything and make sure it all goes exactly how you expect it to is only going to hurt you in the long run.