I think indifference has to be one of the most beautiful words in the English language. At the height of emotional pain of any kind, it’s a word you might think is made up and doesn’t exist, a place you wish you could just get to already. It’s peaceful and calming, it’s like a mug of good coffee on a rainy day.
Indifference is the opposite of all the things you dish out when you’re in love. Respect, attention, sympathy, caring, interest, concern…you get the picture. `Getting to the happy place of indifference isn’t a fast track process. It cant be rushed, cheated or faked. It’s where that person who once filled your heart and mind 24/7 you now think of as indifferent. There’s no more tears, anger or emotion but instead just nothing.
That person you who not only broke your heart, spirit, and pride is now just someone you once knew.
Getting to being indifferent is a journey. A journey of emotions. Not suppressing your emotions but living them, feeling them and accepting them. You need to embrace what the feelings bring not run away. It’s not about throwing yourself into your work, a relationship or alcohol to avoid it all. It’s from accepting your role in the breakup, learning from it and growing from it. It’s from accepting what is and what will never be and being ok with it all. Understanding not everyone will love you as you want or deserve to be loved. Accepting that some people will only have you in their lives if you are of use to them. But that’s all ok as they have their journey to travel and you have yours.
How To Work Towards Indifference
-Think about yourself more and them less. Yes, easier said than done but even simply each time you find yourself thinking up make yourself think about you instead can help. Make plans to do things and start working on goals for yourself.
-Decide to be happy. Happiness isn’t down to others its down to you. No one else is responsible for your happiness. Just by deciding to be happy you are halfway there.
-At some point, you will go through the anger stage. Acknowledge it, don’t act on it and let it go.
-Rechannel your passion into something for you. Take up a hobby, learn another language or skill. For me, I started this blog so that it could help others.
When you reach the better place of indifference you are ready for your next adventure in life.